The “Wait” of the World

I reflect about our current times… “Unprecedented times.” “A new normal.”
And as I reflect, I feel myself pulling away from the present. I want this “wait” to be over . I spend more time thinking of how to make it to tomorrow than sitting with the world as it is today.


When I’m focused on tomorrow I am scared. I feel I don’t have enough… Enough time to figure this out, enough resources to stay protected and healthy for however long and enough income to sustain my family and I. The thing about tomorrows is that the demands never end. When is it all enough? How many days until this is all over? There are so many unknowns and so little of them are within my grasp.


When I take the future off of my shoulders, I am better able to carry all that today is. When I’m present, I feel strong. I feel at peace with what I can do today. Little is in my control except for how I position my thoughts. How I show up today is fully in my control. While that doesn’t seem like much, it’s something I want to hold on to.


It is completely understandable to feel scared and anxious. But we cannot carry the whole world on our shoulders. That doesn’t mean this isn’t difficult. It also doesn’t mean that tangible problems go away. But it makes the ride much smoother. It creates space for me to say, “This is difficult but I’m still here.”


What it really comes down to for me is deciding that I’m enough. I want to believe I’m enough as I am, even when I don’t know how all this will end. I care for my family however I can; I wake up and face today for all that it is. That is enough.
What is something that’s weighing you down about tomorrow that you can set down today? What is something that’s in your control today, and how can you act on it well?
One day at a time, we will make it through. One day at a time, we are enough.

Nicole Smolinski, AMFT

Marriage and Family Therapist Trainee Vanguard University